Yes Sir, That’s My Dobby

Do you ever look for pieces of yourself in your kids? Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I look for resemblances because I had C-sections; I went to sleep pregnant and woke up with a screaming baby and everybody said yeah, he’s yours. And I just believed them.

Seventeen year old Nic is my youngest son, and when he was born he looked exactly like my mother-in-law, and he still does. Nic is intellectually gifted and very tall (over six feet). Hubs and I are Smurf-sized people so Nic literally towers over us.

Everything Nic says is practical and sensical. Nic is calm and easy going and his world is very black or white; he almost parents himself. I swear his auto-parent switch has been on since birth.

Hubs understands Nic and they talk the same language, but I really struggle to find common ground; to have conversations and not question and one-word-answer periods with him. And at least once a week Nic will throw out a word, phrase or story that will make me run for Google so I can continue the conversation -sometimes though, I’ll just ask him. Educating mom.

And then there was the time when I told Nic to clean every square inch of his room. When I came home from work I thought we had been robbed.

image
Yes. That is his bed. In the foyer. But Mom, you said “Every square inch.”

Sometimes I see a glimmer of my DNA in Nic; he is clumsy, a teensy bit goofy, and we share a love of Harry Potter; just us. Hubs doesn’t like Harry Potter.

Recently his Dad and I loaned Nic some money so he could buy an Alienware computer. We kept track of the balance on the family calendar as he paid the money back, a little bit at a time.

Last week Nic paid off his computer debt and Hubs and I were so proud of him, I mean, it’s not like we’d forget that he’d paid it off. But this morning when I glanced at the calendar I noticed Nic had noted his recent “payoff”…

image
And I snorted-laughed coffee through my nose.

Yep. That’s my boy.

Advertisements

7 comments on “Yes Sir, That’s My Dobby

  1. T. D. Davis
    January 23, 2014 at January 23, 2014 #

    I love him. He sounds great! I suspect that if we got our boys together, they’d take over something big – quickly.

    • virtualendings
      January 23, 2014 at January 23, 2014 #

      Yesss! It’s sort of scary-exciting.

  2. bensbitterblog
    January 23, 2014 at January 23, 2014 #

    I’m always looking for things I do that my daughter does. (My son is adopted so it will be enviromental if he does anything I do). I feel so bad because I think she gets all the crappy stuff I have, bad teeth, bad skin, clumbnisess and a deep seeded need to brood. I feel bad everytime she does something like that, cause I think its my fault.

    • virtualendings
      January 23, 2014 at January 23, 2014 #

      Oh good, it’s not just me then. And by the way, ALL girls are born with a deep seeded need to brood.

      • bensbitterblog
        January 24, 2014 at January 24, 2014 #

        Oh well, I thought that was just me and her.

  3. Jeyna Grace
    January 24, 2014 at January 24, 2014 #

    Its nice that you two share the love for HP. I wish someone in my family had the same love for it as me.

    • virtualendings
      January 24, 2014 at January 24, 2014 #

      Although I cherish sharing my HP love with Nic, since I only have boys, I kind of wish someone in my family loved Barbies and princesses… So I completely understand what you mean 😉

Comments are closed.

%d bloggers like this: